What makes a successful marriage?

Holding hands before a cross

PICTURE:  Gift Habeshaw/Unsplash

You have to learn to swallow your pride. Boy, you have to learn that - both parties. If you don’t learn to listen, understand, concede, compromise, let go of ego, apologise and forgive – you’ll create an autocracy – of one.

I say that like it’s easy: it’s not. We want to be right, to win. Sometimes we simply want our way, to control. That’s not a relationship, it’s a dictatorship. 

You’ve got to do these things not because you want to lose, but because you want to love and be loved; that’s how you win. It’s no good being right, if you’re by yourself.

What did St Paul write to married couples? Submit to one another out of love.

Paul Clark’s musings can be heard on radio across Australia and at atthetop.org.au.