PETER ORSI and EMILY LESHNER, of Associated Press, report on an online community’s bid to bring more kindness into the world…
A tin of cookies is left on the running board of an ambulance outside a nursing home with a note for the emergency workers who operate it: “You’re AMAZING! Yes, you!”
A bag sits on the edge of a fountain with dozens of copper coins and another message, for anyone who passes by and fancies tossing one in: “Take a penny. Make a wish! Hope your dreams come true.”
This is the world of Sparks of Kindness, an online community of people going out of their way to put a smile on the faces of others through small but touching good deeds, especially in tumultuous times of pandemic, protests and political division.
In this 20th November photo, a bag containing pennies and a note encouraging passersby to make a wish is placed by Debbie McFarland near a fountain in Peachtree City, Georgia. McFarland is the founder of the Facebook group Sparks of Kindness, a community of people going out of their way to put a smile on the faces of others through small but touching good deeds. PICTURE: Debbie McFarland via AP.
“There’s so much bad in the world, and that’s kind of what we hear about,” said Debbie McFarland, a 53-year-old photographer from Peachtree City, in the US state of Georgia, who founded the group on Facebook. “But I found that there’s so many people that want to do good – they just don’t really know how to start.”
That’s where Sparks of Kindness comes in. It has lists of ideas for “sparks”, or small kindnesses people can do such as thanking a teacher with candy or leaving coloring books in a hospital waiting room.
“There’s so much bad in the world, and that’s kind of what we hear about. But I found that there’s so many people that want to do good – they just don’t really know how to start.”
– Debbie McFarland, founder of the Sparks of Kindness Facebook group.
Users share their ideas and stories in the forum. Among them:
• “Took flowers to the neighbor. She had been caring for a sick friend and thought she could use a little cheer.”
• “I gave the guy in front of me $20 since his debit didn’t go through. My emergency $20 came in handy…he hugged me, so I may get Covid, but he was very appreciative!”
• “Took hot soup and biscuits to a sick mama next door.”
McFarland said she encourages people to do “sparks” when they’re struggling in their own lives. It helps them cope with their own traumas.
She enjoys leaving notes in stores for others to find – say, “You’re beautiful just the way you are” in the cosmetics aisle, or “This too shall pass. Hang in there” amid the cold and flu remedies.
Once, McFarland watched in a grocery store as a weary woman in medical scrubs with three crying young children in tow came across one of those pick-me-ups. She looked around, broke out in a smile and tucked the note into her pocket.
She’s also fond of the story of a woman who put her four-year-old daughter’s comforter in the washing machine at a laundromat, only to realise she didn’t have money for the dryer. Almost by magic, a bag of quarters left by a member of the group materialised. After the woman went on the Facebook group and posted her thanks, another member bought her a new dryer.
McFarland encourages people to keep their eyes open for random acts of kindness, like helping an older adult struggling to load groceries into the trunk. But she also wants them to do good with planning and intent – “deliberate acts of kindness,” as she puts it.
“When you’re making your to-do list for the day or the week, you think about where you’re going that particular day,” she said. “If you’re going to the tyre shop, maybe swing by and pick up a pack of cookies…Or if you know you’re going to the school, maybe pick up a hot chocolate for the crossing guard.”
In this 2nd December image taken from video, Debbie McFarland speaks to an Associated Press journalist during an interview from Peachtree City, Goergia. The Facebook group she started, Sparks of Kindness, is a community of people going out of their way to put a smile on the faces of others through small but touching good deeds. PICTURE: Zoom via AP.
Launched several years ago, Sparks of Kindness has grown to some 5,000 members in about 40 countries, according to McFarland. Interest has picked up during the pandemic, with about 500 new people joining since it began.
“During this pandemic, I think people are starting to realise that…every person you come into contact with is fighting some kind of battle, whether it’s appointments or unmet expectations of others or health or bullying or whatever it is,” McFarland said. “Everyone’s facing a battle, and if you can get one tiny spark to ignite a hope within them, then it does something within them.”
