I love CS Lewis’ distinction between unselfishness and charity; that’s charity in the old sense of showing love.
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For example, if my wife and I both wanted the last piece of cake, I could, as an act of charity, offer it to her. This is positive; showing love to another.
On the other hand, I could prove how unselfish I am by giving in to her desire for cake. This is something negative. My unselfishness becomes a seedbed for resentment. ‘I gave in, but she never does.’ Or for pride – ‘I’m so holy.’
Focusing on unselfishness can make good people miserable, as they become martyrs and resent always giving in.
Much better to show charity. Charity is impossible to resent.
Fortunately I got to the fridge and ate the last piece of cake before my wife noticed. Phew. We didn’t get into any twisted mess.
Paul Clark’s musings can be heard on radio across Australia and at atthetop.org.au.
