ADELA SULIMAN reports from Central Asia…
Walking proudly down a catwalk, the lights and glamour seemed like a lifetime away from Elzat Kazakbaeva’s nightmare ordeal five years ago when she was grabbed off a Kyrgyzstan street by a group of men wanting to marry her to an uninvited suitor.
Kazakbaeva is one of thousands of woman abducted and forced to marry each year in the former Soviet republic in Central Asia where bride kidnappings continue, particularly in rural areas.
Elzat Kazakbaeva (left) and Aida Sooronbaeva (right), bride kidnapping survivors, wait in the backstage for a fashion show organised by designer Zamira Moldosheva, part of a public movement against bride kidnapping and domestic violence, in Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan on 18th October. PICTURE: Shanshan Chen/Thomson Reuters Foundation.
Bride kidnapping – which also occurs in nations like Armenia, Ethiopia and Kazakhstan – was outlawed in 2013 in Kyrgyzstan where authorities recognised it could lead to marital rape, domestic violence, and psychological trauma.
But some communities still see it as a pre-Soviet tradition dating back to tribal prestige, said Russell Kleinbach, professor emeritus of sociology at Philadelphia University and co-founder of women’s advocacy group Kyz Korgon Institute.
“Bride kidnapping is not our tradition – it should be stopped.”
– Fashion designer Zamira Moldosheva
Now a new generation of women are eschewing acceptance of this abuse, with their campaign escalating in 2018 when one kidnapped bride, Burulai Turdaaly Kyzy, 20, was put in the same police cell as the man who abducted her – and stabbed to death.
Her killer was jailed for 20 years but her murder sparked national outrage and protests against bride kidnappings in a country where campaigners said tougher sentences were handed down for kidnapping livestock than women until recently.
Fashion designer Zamira Moldosheva is part a rising public movement against bride kidnapping which has ranged from charity bike rides to flag installations with campaigners saying more events would be planned this year.
She organised a fashion show featuring only women who had been abused or kidnapped, dressed as historical Kyrgyz women.
“Can’t we women do something against the violence taking place in our country?” Moldosheva said in an interview in Bishkek, the capital of the majority Muslim nation of six million people.
“Bride kidnapping is not our tradition – it should be stopped,” she said, adding that bride kidnapping was a form of forced marriage and not a traditional practice.
A model takes a selfie before a fashion show organised by designer Zamira Moldosheva. PICTURE: Shanshan Chen/Thomson Reuters Foundation
Kazakbaeva, one of 12 models in the fashion show, said she was glad to participate in the event last October to highlight her ordeal and encourage other women to flee forced marriages.
Kazakbaeva, then a student aged 19, was ambushed in broad daylight on a Saturday afternoon outside her college dormitory in Bishkek and forced into a waiting car by a group of men.
“I felt as if I was an animal,” Kazakbaeva told the Thomson Reuters Foundation, her faced streaked with tears. “I couldn’t move or do anything at all.”
Kazakbaeva was taken to the groom’s home in rural Issyk Kul region, about 200 kilometres east of Bishkek, where she was dressed in white and taken into a decorated room for an impending ceremony.
She spent hours pleading with the groom’s family – and her own – to stop the forced marriage.
“My grandmother is very traditional, she thought it would be a shame and she started convincing me to stay,” said Kazakbaeva.
When her mother threatened to call the police, the groom’s family finally let her go.
She was lucky to escape unwed, she said, and hoped the fashion show, depicting historical female figures, would help to bring the taboo subject to the fore.
“Women nowadays can also be the characters of new fairy tales for others,” said Kazakbaeva, dressed as a female freedom fighter from ancient Kyrgyzstan, which gained independence from Moscow in 1991.
“I’m fighting for women’s rights.”
Fashion designer Zamira Moldosheva dresses up a model before the fashion show. PICTURE: Shanshan Chen/Thomson Reuters Foundation
Kyrgyzstan toughened laws against bride kidnapping in 2013, making it punishable by up to 10 years in prison, according to the United Nations Development Programme, which said it was a “myth” that the practice was ever part of the culture.
In a handful of cases the kidnappings are consensual, said Kleinbach, especially in poorer communities where the practice was akin to eloping to save costs of a ceremony or hefty dowry.
A UNDP spokeswoman said data was scant on the number of women abducted each year as many women did not report the crime through fear but they estimate about 14 per cent of women aged under 24 are still married through some form of coercion.
“They don’t want to report, this is the issue,” Umutai Dauletova, gender coordinator at the UNDP in Kyrgyzstan, told the Thomson Reuters Foundation.
Dauletova said most cases did not make it to court as women retracted their statements, often under pressure from female family members, fearing public shaming for disobedience or no longer being a virgin.
“This is the phenomenon of women suppressing other women,” she said.
Aida Sooronbaeva, 35, was not as fortunate as Kazakbaeva.
Back from school, aged 17, she found her grandfather tied up and her home smashed up so she hid until her brother tricked her to seek refuge with a friend whose family kidnapped her.
Initially she refused to marry their son and tried to escape but she said she was eventually worn down by social pressure in her village and was married for 16 years despite domestic abuse.
“He kept me at home, never letting me out, just in the yard,” said Sooronbaeva, exposing scars on her neck and stomach. “I lived with him only for the sake of my children.”
Aida Sooronbaeva (left) and Elzat Kazakbaeva (right), bride kidnapping survivors, pose for a portrait after the fashion show. PICTURE: Shanshan Chen/Thomson Reuters Foundation
But a few years ago, the violence got so bad that she ran into the street where she was rescued by a passer-by and she finally plucked up the courage to leave her husband.
She said she hoped speaking out, and taking part in campaigns like the fashion show, would break the taboos surrounding forced marriage.
“Now I perceive any man as an enemy. I never even think of getting remarried,” said Sooronbaeva, adorned in heavy jewellery and colourful make-up.
But she added, with a note of optimism: “Women are strong, we can survive.”
